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A lot of "INFJs" are co-dependent. I'd highly recommend to stop using Myers Briggs if you want to emotionally grow

This is me exactly, I do however have my sister. When it comes to my secrets she keeps them. She is trustworthy. If she ever betrayed that I would be lost. It definitely goes both ways. Our other siblings are jealous of our bond.

Yes. Yes. And yes. Omg! So spot on.

"Studying an alien culture" 🖐

I am not a NUMBERS person...

I laughed out loud when you verbalized an INFJ tendency to not put the brakes on in a relationship by expressing, "I've known this person a month and I know they are the one." In my experience, very true. I benefit from watching your videos.

This was fascinating, I appreciate you explaining this. In my recreational experiences I have had deeper experiences than my friends, and wondered why. I've always found those experiences to be spiritually powerful and they brought up a wide range of emotions that my friends weren't expecting. I've never had a bad experience though. Life changing in a good way a few times even! But it's definitely best to take the controlled medical route rather than making risky decisions 😅

Novel then.

INFJ- and INTJ-thoughts are directly connected to Indra's net.

Phew. 😮‍💨 Glad I found you.

Yesssss

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Scarily me....yikes!!!

OMG that's so true about when we share an idea with someone and they later repeat the idea like they're the ones who came up with it and act as if they have amnesia when you remind them that it was your idea or your clever statement

I am an empath the day I became a reiki master my teacher who attuned me said you will now be a like a flame attracting moths. Like a moth to a flame it’s so true …I dont feel guilty about anything I haven’t done anything to deserve to feel guilty 🤷‍♀️ I don’t think guilt is the answer here I think ppl see how bright and shiny we are and we are great supply

I thought I've seen it all and have really gained a ton from the INFJ people out there on RUclips. Well, damn.....I appreciate your blunt (may I say blatently truthful?) insight. I really wish I had access to you before I became a sigma.... Bless you!

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Love you Lauren

I'm not ambivalent about money, I am monetarily retarded.

Thank you!! This explains a lot in my life! I'm looking forward to the next video you made on this topic. Very important for infjs! 😌

it's like being an energy dispenser

This is scary accurate for me (INFP) and one of my best friends ( INFJ)

Oh God this hits close to home 😂😅

SO Very True in my own experience, thank you for all that you do🌠

As neurodivergent people, we are still considered weak and damaged by the society. They still want us to be fixed and healed so that we can become just like them. No one understands that there is nothing to fix and this is a completely different way of being, and its ok to be like that. Just as we dont judge the diversity of animals and birds in nature, people need to learn that there is a diversity of brains too. To be honest, people are sooo limited. And then, we turn their rejection inside ourselves and we think we are wrong. Such a sick society.

I was given a test by a psychologist knowing I am Dyslexic, letting my use my red clear plastic over the words, and reading questions upside down. When results came in , I was told I am classified as an INFJ, going into the meaning of the acronym. Which did not mean all that much to me. I am good in art . Frustrating , because in the world of art, "REALISM' is NOT accepted in Art Galleries as being REAL art, but just being a good copyist .Robert Batemans work is never accepted either. Yet, go to art galleries, and art critics will give RAVE REIVIES of an Artists work of doing Animal Meat hanging from a hook in a Slaughter HOUSE. Or a stack of dirty dishes in a sink. or a portrait. But Wildlife is not accepted unless in the process of being killed, or Dead, and being prepared for a meal, with a pot, some onions, and carrots on the side. It is as it saying GOD"S Creation is nothing of Value, or of beauty. I have seen other peoples realism of nature , and they are very goo. My problem is I live Far below poverty., and no way can I afford to enter an art show, and pay for the costly entrance fee, plus the use of a boot, have my work Matted, and Framed. I use to do peoples pets but too many said they would pay for the painting when finished, but never had the money but still wanted the painting to be able to show someone, and may be they would help loan the money. However, trusting one HONESTY , was short lived., and they would not give back the painting, So, I continue to paint wildlife, on Flat boar canvas to save room. to store. But am told flat board canvas is Cheap Junk, I use Rust-Oleum , and sand in between coats. Then I am told because I use Acrylic, the painting are hardly worth anything, however I plan to go over some areas in OIL paint. It is not easy because in order to keep better friends I have to not let them know Why I can not go places ,or join them for lunch I have to make up stores,, WHY do I do this, because I know if they knew I lived below poverty, they would not bother to talk to me. Tell me places they have visited, about a play they had seen or even places they had eating ,, I know there are others, that would LOVE to sit and Gab, about getting plastered, or how they almost got busted by the police.. THEY may be NICE. but sorry I am not interested. in their. often limited "F" vocabulary. Therefore it can be very LONELY, and not having money to afford to do many things. It took me this long to save enough to have enough materials to paint, .and sketch. Years ago I had everything stolen , Years of sketches of wildlife and notes. many of my paintings I kept in a tote gone, and all my art supplies. I am 76, and so I have NO excuse. I try to set a goal to do at least 2paintgs and 1/2 a week, So far for June , I ran into problems, because i did not like it. . STOPPED , and went back to it, and almost finished 2 but behind 10 paintings. YOUR POD CAST seems to be more on Creative Writing.. I do not have time to fill my mind with negative thoughts. OTHERS tell me , why am I wasting my time on NATUE , when all one has to do is take a Photo , and get the same thing, Or that splatter, or pouring different color acrylic on a canvas is in. Yes some are pretty, a hit and miss. I am working on a pair of Cormorants, Double Crested. many have not a clue about that this bird comes to our Stated to breed. Ask people and most can not Name more than 10 birds, trees, wild plants, or animals., or even Recognize when they see a picture, yet they can and recognize 1,000's of logos, I dress simple, that is easy to be in style. I pay lowest rent almost close to 800 a month. I have my Hot Water on Vacation, use just a Microwave, no stove or fridge, too costly. Winter , heat is set to about 50, mainly to keep the pipes from freezing. I like where I live , some what away for Crime and Noisy College students. that act and behave very Ghetto , minus the theft and shooting. As for your POD Cast I did not get much out of it, probably when I discovered the ART Aspect was mainly for WRITERS, and not the ART in use of materials. According to many pod casts relating to INFJ's not all that much as you made it seem to be. Almost to the point of being self destructive. AND you seem to say YOU KNOWN A lot of INFJ personalities. GUESS the INFJ is not as RARE, as it is said to be. Which might be true, Most pod cast speak of those that seem to be Stable, in the economic level , very Pretty , hair like they just stepped out of a salon., very well dressed, clear skin, have Friends, than those that are not wealthy. Which makes me wonder are INFJ's shut off's of other INFJ's just striving to stay a float, Sort of the same reason why I do not tell those I like ,I am not on their level in the Economic living style.

I didn't realize why those "formulas for how-to" haven't worked for me. I felt something was wrong with those fomulas, but I wasn't sure what to do.

Great video! ❤

Omg, this is who I am. I didn't know it had a name. There is a lot to digest here. Thank you.

Soooooo much wisdom here.

I wish someone could have explained this to me when I was a kid in a way I could have understood. I feel like I’ve been in the dark for so long. In some ways I guess it’s nice that I’ve kinda self taught myself to “ get by.” But it wasn’t easy and feel like I’ve developed many different skills that were/are helpful, but now it’s hard to tell what exactly is natural and what are the safety mechanism I’ve built that now limit me and cause confusion. The other issue is I’ve fought for so long by myself that I don’t even know how to ask for help or use it. Because like you said most offered help doesn’t work. I couldn’t imagine how people before the internet with access to all the this information would have figured it out. Other than libraries. But libraries didn’t have algorithms did they? lol. It’s so awesome you do what you do and offer so much understandable help to those of us in need.

Are INFJ's and FP's always neurodiverent?

ADHD/Autism runs deep with us. And it’s ok.

Worst gathering - baby shower - with people I worked with and my therapist… 😮

I feel too smart and too stupid at once sometimes

I've got a tip for dyslexic INFJs when it comes to writing. I wrote a novel and intuitively following Lauren's advice here, I just worked on the scenes I had in my head that was was excited about. Then, the more I worked on it, the more I got excited by other scenes, until I basically had all the action points covered, and then I when back and started on all the connective tissue of the story - getting characters from point A to point B. And I blazed along until the first draft was done. And then everything came to a grinding halt when it came to editing. As a dyslexic, I knew something was wrong and it didn't matter how long I stared at it I could not figure out the problem. So anyone having problems with revision, especially dyslexics, will find this helpful. Recently I heard about using the 'read aloud' function in Microsoft Word and Word-compatible programs. I know I can hear problems even when I can't see them. And being dyslexic reading back something aloud doesn't work, because even with our own writing we can't place the emphasis correctly or see the problems. Anyway, when it comes to my novel, I did most of the work in 2001 and 2002 but when it came to proofing it I was just spinning my wheels and pulling my hair out and getting more and more depressed and discouraged. So, though I've pulled it out a couple of times since then, I felt that since I was completely blind to the problems I was trying to solve, I was just wasting my time and making things worse. I didn't even know till a year ago I was dyslexic, so I just felt stupid and incompetent being completely unable to edit my work. I hope this helps and saves people a lot of frustration and self-torture.

Omg people still try to teach me left and right, they say you make an L with your hand. I can read backwards so they are both L to me

I remember being taught how to tell time as a small child on an analog clock. And I remember the adult, a neighbor, telling me the big hand points to the hours and the little hand points to the minutes. Well to me the tall skinny hand was the little hand and the short fat hand was the big hand, kind of like with people - men. I think I was thinking Laurel and Hardy. As tall, thin men were considered littler, smaller, and weaker than wide, robust bigger men. That was my reasoning. INFJ think in terms of people and relationships. And I remember this adult just flat out telling me no, that's wrong. And I remember thinking, no I got it right and being confused as to what was wrong. One might wonder why an adult didn't notice that I had the time reversed in terms of minutes and hours, which might have signaled a clarification was needed to the instructions. Now, as an adult, I wonder why wasn't telling analog time just taught based on the much more descriptive 'long hand' and the 'short hand'? Anyway, as a little kid this kind of thing, which I'm sure happened pretty regularly, damaged my confidence.

Thanks for this. I become overwhelmed with others and myself and become either paralyzed or very blunt towards people. Time alone is essential.

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An INTJ introduced a note-taking app to me called Obsidian that maps this "web." Works with Windows/MacOS/Linux

Great video.

Maybe it’s because my F and T are incredibly balanced, but I am competitive and very much so. (I am also a 1w2 and firstborn). But relationship does matter to me. However I have been made to feel that I don’t value relationships so much as I value my boundaries and expectations, and that much is true, too. I do absolutely love connecting with people who share enough values and boundaries that differences of opinion don’t phase me as much!

Or we make a person narcissist because we praise them a lot that boost their ego

I think intuition is not that agressive it works nice slowly and with a bounch of maturity cuzz is inner wisdom

Needed this

Needed this right now. Thank you.

I can remember at about age 12 thinking that Everyone ‘Chameleoned’ all the time like i did

You really read me well Lauren! This question of why I self-sabotage is very much answered by what you have said in this video! It comes down to fear that love will be withdrawn and it will be replaced by rejection. I have to discover what my wounded child needs in order to heal and move forward!

Lauren - I found your Medium articles doing research into writing in a new genre. I get your newsletter and was thrilled you have this YT channel. This video resonates. I had published a book and when I found formatting issues, I pulled the whole thing (which is the right thing to do) and when my laptop died before I could fix it, I gave up. I'm loathe to ever return to it now. Worse, I did tell people about my book and keep getting asked when it'll be back up on Amazon. I get the fear of feeling of exposure/judgment. I am an INTP. Do you do work with us types? I've read that INTPs make very poor fiction writers and should focus on Non-Fiction instead. I'd love to hear your thoughts, or opinions on INTP. When I have the extra money, I look forward to joining one of your classes in the future! I appreciate the work you're doing.